Should We Be Surprised?



If we choose to give our heart freely and completely to another person, or to a thing on this planet – if it is given as a free gift without any strings attached – we should not be too surprised if sometimes we do not get something equally as valuable for it in return.

Nor should we be surprised if it is not in the same condition as in which it was when we gave it, if we are fortunate enough to get it back someday.

We might ask ourselves what we did with the heart of another that was given freely to us??

Do we expect too much? Do we expect or demand like for like? Is this always and only a ‘Fair’ world? I don’t think so. Not from what i have seen of it.


Do we not anticipate that there is both good and evil in this world? Joy and pain? Love and hate?

Everywhere we look we see that there are opposing forces at play, from the microcosm to the macrocosm, this is a universal Truth.

Yet we continue unendingly to be surprised when the opposite to what we want from this world happens.


Why is that, i wonder?

The great English author and philosopher C.S. Lewis had some thoughts on giving our heart’s away to another…

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in a casket or a coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.”

The giving of one’s heart to another involves great risk. It can bring great rewards – but there are NO guarantees and there can definitely be unwanted consequences so be sure you are aware of this and give it reasonable consideration.child giving heart to God

Know that there is only, ever and always, One in whom you can fully trust with your heart – the One who gave it to you in the first place. 🙂

If you decide you still have to give it away to another person, do it through Him, as a go-between.  Call it heart insurance, and it is totally free to all.




  1. I think the older you get, the more you understand that what you give is what you give. It isn’t bartering. It’s love and sharing. You DO get it back, but not necessarily in the same coin. I think it’s more “what goes around, comes around.” And not necessarily in any time-centric way, either. You may have already gotten back more than you gave before you gave it.

    Karma is a very strange beast.

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    • Age certainly can bring it’s own kind of wisdom – and acceptance of the way things are. Some people can ‘go the other way’ however’ 😉

      I do tend to agree though that for most of us we get ‘back’ more than we give even if it is largely not the way we’d prefer to have it. 🙂
      Karma does often seem strange and unpredictable – but i do tend to think nowadays that is more down to us being strange and unpredictable even though we believe ourselves to be reasonable and rational.

      I think Karma is simple and logical but not operating in our personal timescales – we’re the complicating factor.

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  2. So true, unfortunately it can take a long time to realise the truth and necessity of this, for many of us.

    Thank you for your kind and considered comments, they are always most welcome here. 🙂

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