i am different to you.
My DNA is different; my fingerprints are different; my retina and iris patterns are different making what i see different to what you do.
My ears are different, i don’t hear the same sound you hear.
My tastebuds are not yours, we don’t like all the same foods.
My skin is not your skin, my experiences are not your experiences and my life is most definitely not like yours – we are completely different beings you and i – We are basically alone – a party of One: and in that we are identical to all other humans living on this small planet with us.
For while i am different to you, there are a number of ways in which we share a common ground, just as there are a myriad of ways we have learned to make ourselves different to each other.
Ways like race, creed, religion, country, language, city, sporting club association and even age groups – the so-called ‘generations’ like X and Y and ‘the Baby-Boomers’. (Those born after World War 2 but before the ‘free-love’ era of the mid 60’s).
We humans are so very good at finding ways to form a group we think we ‘belong’ in because of how we are so very alike, while at the same time ostracising all those who don’t ‘fit in’ who are not the same as us and who show it in ‘weird’ ways that we do not make much effort to understand or recognise as being in any way like (or as good) as ‘we’ are.
We’re so good at it we even do it within the larger ways we make to be in opposition to our fellow human beings (some of whom, if we are really determined to, we can see as not even worthy of the name – or the respect – of being called ‘human’ – and that is what i find truly sickening about ‘us’) we become groups within groups – Methodist, Baptist, Catholic, Non-Denominational, Unitarian, Anglican ‘Christians’ in the grouping we have all made called ‘religion’, for one typical example.
Most of us tend to equate ‘different’ ( as in they are different to us) with inferior – after all if their ‘way’ was superior to ours we’d choose to be one of ‘them’ – right? None of us would intentionally choose to be inferior to another group of humans if it was within our power to change – make a change for the better – so clearly since we have not changed (or have changed ‘into’ the group we now associate with most) we are the best we think we can be in our present level of understandings.
Now i am not stupid enough to believe that all of us actually think that about ourselves – perhaps not even about those ‘others’ – but in reality this is what is going on at some level somewhere down in the rather murky depths of our sub-conscious.
You know – the places where we dare not shine a light too brightly for fear of what we will see in there staring wild-eyed back at us. The dark recesses of our inner being where fear and insecurity lie as we try to push it’s ugly little head away from the eyes of our friends – the ones in our group with whom we so desperately want to belong and are afraid that if they ever see that creature inside of us they will despise us forever and we will be cast into the pit of lonely hell on our own – with no-one but old mad wild-eyes for companionship. (and maybe Hitler and Osama when he croaks it)?
The fact that all of those in our group are doing much the same thing never quite seems to register with us – or only very infrequently when we gain a sudden flash of insight – which is often then suppressed and forgotten about because really – we have no idea of how to deal with what we then see or know – about them, about ‘us’ and about ‘me’.
about how different i am (we are) to what i wish i was (we were).
if the mood strikes me, and if He wills it – i might just write another post about one way we can learn how to deal with the difference… a way of Hope.
But maybe most of my readers know of it already so what would be the point?
(and yes – if any are interested – it’s been one of ‘those’ days… months even?)