Only The Boys… (Hum if you don’t know the words!)

Love Will Tear Us Apart

When routine bites hard,
And ambitions are low,
And resentment rides high,
But emotions won’t grow,
And we’re changing our ways,
Taking different roads.

Then love, love will tear us apart again.
Love, love will tear us apart again.

Why is the bedroom so cold?
You’ve turned away on your side.
Is my timing that flawed?
Our respect runs so dry.
Yet there’s still this appeal
That we’ve kept through our lives.

But love, love will tear us apart again.
Love, love will tear us apart again.

You cry out in your sleep,
All my failings exposed.
And there’s a taste in my mouth,
As desperation takes hold.
Just that something so good
Just can’t function no more.

But love, love will tear us apart again.
Love, love will tear us apart again.
Love, love will tear us apart again.
Love, love will tear us apart again.

Ian Curtis/Joy Division 1980


I owe a debt of gratitude to Jason for reminding me of this song.

It was never one of my favourites but I, and I suspect Buddy may possibly too, appreciate the Yin and Yang of the last two songs posted. The two aspects of Love many of us may be familiar with, raising seemingly opposite feelings within us at one time or another.

 On a totally different level these songs express an understanding I have of God too.

The force of Love being responsible for bringing and keeping things together but also in tearing them apart again so that life can be experienced in total, in this physical, sensorial world where we live, for a brief moment in Time. Over and over – reuniting and then dividing, individualising, giving us all a chance to experience and incorporate our knowledge into reality. A chance to learn by our mistakes.

 Hopefully we learn to Love Unconditionally, and not be ‘dependant’ upon another human being. To Give of ourselves without expecting anything in return.

I am not so sure this was the kind of thing Ian Curtis had in mind when he penned those lyrics. I’m fairly sure he was just reflecting upon his own experiences of Romantic, as opposed to Unconditional, Love but it does serve to remind me that Love is a complex and many splendoured thing. Not just all sweetness and light.

 At least it is on Earth and in many lives.

If i had to have one song ringing round in my head for a whole day though, i’m going to plonk for Daryl and Tony’s! 🙂  La! La-dee-daaa Da-dee-daaaa….

 Sorry Tam – forgive me? 😉



  1. “i’m going to plonk for Daryl and Tony’s! 🙂 La! La-dee-daaa Da-dee-daaaa”

    Is this before my time Thinker? I don;t think I recognize this one!

    As for unconditional love….that truly is a hard one, if I’m being honest. And I try to be 😉 I mean, I love my dog…conditionally. I’m totally serious! When he comes home form the groomer I’m all cuddly and “come sit with ME Duke!” Fast forward 2 months, “Get away from me you filthy mutt!” Pretty picture of me eh?


  2. LOL!

    ‘get away from me you filthy mutt??’ I love it! 🙂

    What do you say to Brent when he comes home sweaty after a long day at the Jazz festival?

    Unconditional Love hard?? Where’d you get that idea? 😉 If it was easy we’d all be doing it!!!

    I think you may be the most honest person I have yet met! Certainly one of the gutsiest – and cutest too.

    Now if you can just get past that mole-annihilating peccadilo!?


  3. Ooohhh – I get it now! I ruined all the fun on that one 🙂

    What do I say when B gets home??? Did they pay you yet honey?

    Moles? Uck! I am soooo done with them. I tell you what…when we finally “dispose” of them – we won’t tell you! Ya know, I had almost forgotten that whole conversation we had about that so long ago… that was when I first wanted to trip you 😉 But I’d totally help you up now! 🙂

    Big hugz your way!


  4. I probaly tripped you a little on the song thingy – it’s TonI with an I not a Y, like i wrote it right? 😉

    I’m ‘sure’ you say that to Brent full of concern for HIS financial well-being!! And you have a cold refreshing beer and a lovely dinner waiting for him when he gets home too! – isn’t that Right Brent? 🙂

    Let God help you out with your moles – and i probably would not prefer to know what happens there, just in case lol.

    I have to confess to having less than charitable thoughts about this ‘mad woman’ who was protective of her kids potential for harm rather than actual harm she seemed overly keen to cause a ‘defencelsss’ creature… but that was before i realised you were married to Brent and before i got to know the warm, caring, funny and totally open human being you actually were 🙂

    Keep those hugz a comin’!!

    Right back atcha ((((((Hug))))))


  5. “mad woman”? That is hilarious! How did you peg me so accurately!

    wow- It’s a good thing you, me and Brent hold back our true feelings ( she says sarcastically ) mad woman… partly true…

    Question: What drives a mole to peak out in the first place? Why don’t they just stay underground? Do they not know they’re taking a huge risk? I love on 2 acres! And they pick the one patch of actual grass there is!


  6. I knew that! 2 acres was never going to be anywhere NEAR big enough for you to Love on!! 😉 (Freudian slip?)

    I mean your Love is Huge – NOT that you are, of course! 🙂 Watch those Oreo’s now!

    How did i peg you so accurately? ( Ok that worries me a little 😉 ) I simply let my intuition guide me! maybe it’s a kindred spirit thing 🙂

    Who knows why creatures take the risks they do? I choose to believe the moles like skylights! Since the dear little suckers are half blind though, more likely they just need the ventilation. Mole holes – pee-yew!

    I’m willing to bet moles were put here for a purpose (other than really p’ing gardeners off!) but why they are choosing your only patch of green to volcano-ise may just be one of those mysteries we never learn in this lifetime! Maybe they just like the feel of lush little green roots on their backs and noses? 🙂


  7. You can! You DID! 😮

    Since i am like God here (can i really say that? lol) I will allow it – but don’t abuse the priviledge, Please 😉

    I could make it like you didn’t and i could wish you might be able to view moles through my eyes for a sec, instead of through ‘murderous’ ones, but i am going to be a magnanimous God and not insist on everything being all nice and ‘pretty! 🙂

    And let each of us live with our choices!

    (Unless you have second thoughts and want people to think more nicely of you and you suck up Big Time for me to remove it! 🙂 I am not a jealous God but i do like it when people suck up to me – preferably with sacrifices of Chocolate or strawberries… Or CHOCOLATE-DIPPED STRAWBERRIES!! Yum-Yum! )


  8. I knew that! 2 acres was never going to be anywhere NEAR big enough for you to Love on!!

    Did you just call my wife fat? 🙂 Just kidding…

    If God did create the moles for a special purpose, I can’t believe it would be just to eat my lawn. They actually aren’t damaging the lawn much, there are just those pesky holes everywhere. We have to figure out how to “move” them somewhere else or we can’t play on the lawn anymore. I am getting tired of shoveling dirt mounds as well. It is kind of funny that we have 2 acres and they have confined themselves to a 40×20 foot space.

    But anyway…I’ll be back full force tomorrow, hope you didn’t miss me too much 🙂 I see you and tam have had a lovely time in my absence 😉


  9. uh-oh…so I shouldn’t have said pi$$…sorry 😉

    It’s so unfair that we have to go to bed and you get to start a brand new day in Oz! Sunny, beautiful Oz!


  10. We missed your Input Inworship – really we did 😉 and i would not dare call your wife ‘fat’ – she knows how to use a knife!

    I like the thought of moles digging through grass roots ‘cos they like the way the roots tickle their little noses! I can just see their contented little smiles 🙂 A mole needs ventilation and escape routes to feel ‘comfortable’. The more you shovel the harder HE has to ‘work’ – Kind of like you and God! 😉 Hope you get to rest up a little after the long working weekend and you are back into form here soon!

    Tam! I am not offended in any way by a simple four letters – some can be, but that is up to them and it is up to you what you wish to write – there is no harm to me in you being honest as long as you don’t in any way degrade yourself and your integrity – ok?

    As for unfair – how’s this? As you lose daylight and the temperature begins to plummet and you have to look forward to days wearing massive quanatities of clothing to keep out the winter chill…

    We get to watch our spring flowers bloom and our days warm up (sometimes too hot – 105 plus! but not very often, mostly it stays absolutely beautiful from now till June).

    I’ll do my best to send a bit of Oz sunshine your and Brent’s way! 🙂 Sleep well folks.


  11. 24 hours after i wrote the post the radio had a guest who was making a movie about…?


    Guess which was the only song of theirs they played afterwards?

    Life can include a lot of such moments. I know i have not heard of them for several years or heard this song since the 90’s at the earliest.

    Just coincidence maybe?


  12. Zowie. I never thought about it like that. Only thought of it as that which I’m happy God left behind. (Not “Left Behind”…pause for laughter that never comes) Really, really insighful.

    Especially this:

    The force of Love being responsible for bringing and keeping things together but also in tearing them apart again so that life can be experienced in total, in this physical, sensorial world where we live, for a brief moment in Time.

    Man-o-man. the picture of running the race,
    of persevering, and the beautiful Holy Spirit, through his perfect pushing and pulling, making it happen when we absolutely could not.



  13. You are, I can assure you, Welcome, Jason. 🙂

    Glad I could be of some service in your journey of discovery.

    Love is a truly Amazing thing – even if Hollywood can sometimes make it seem so ‘trivial’. So ‘one dimensional’.

    Ok – not just Hollywood but they seem to do it for a large number of people 😦

    It may well be God’s ‘Primary’ Force in our lives… and the Universe? 🙂


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